As someone who's had a business for almost 6 years now, on and off...I remember being so disappointed at the one year mark when I hadn't made tons of money like I had been promised by my first business coach (who I invested a TON of money in that I didn't have). I realized I needed to take a step back and allow my business to unfold in its own time, and surrender that I didn't have any control over it. It's been a continual learning, forgetting, and remembering over the 6 years and there have been times I've wanted to give up when I haven't seen the external results, but it's been so fulfilling to create and work with the clients that come to me that I keep coming back.
Now, when I do work with mentors or enroll in programs (which I took a long break from after I realized I was investing from a "what can this person/course get me and how quickly" place), I do so not from a place of lack but from a place of deep excitement, integrity, and relinquishing any cherished outcomes. I know when I hire someone to coach or mentor me, it's for me and not for the results. I trust that I will receive exactly what I need, and what that really is is deep space to just find joy exactly where I am, not chasing external success.
Hang in there, it's a long, slow, but beautiful and fulfilling road! Your writing is gorgeous and I'm cheering you on!
Oh Melina, this was everything I needed to read this morning. THANK YOU. That's the exact realization I had this week, I wasn't looking for a coach or course from a place of integrity/authenticity. I was looking to it for results, regardless of how aligned or unaligned it actually was.
" I trust that I will receive exactly what I need, and what that really is is deep space to just find joy exactly where I am, not chasing external success." I love this so much. Carrying it with me.
Thank you for sharing this piece of your story with me, it was so expansive and seriously just the reminder I needed. I'm so happy this piece resonated with you. 🤍
That’s such a hugely important realization! I have had such beautiful and richer experiences with the coaches / containers I have enrolled in since making that switch (and I am extremely selective about who I hire for those roles).
So glad this resonated with you! Keep going, the world needs your medicine 🤍
It's funny how we find pieces of work, pieces of art, at the exact moment we need them. For some (divine) reason, I missed your latest essay, and now I know why. I'm in a puddle of tears. I think I ugly cried for five whole minutes. I resonated with every single word because I'm moving through so much of this right now. AND I got a mention?!?!?!?!?!?!? I love you so deeply, and I'm so grateful that our paths crossed when they did 🤍.
I've said it 100 times today but I LOVE YOU and I AM SO THANKFUL FOR YOU. So touched to know that this found its way to you right when you needed it. Forever in awe of the universes gentle but powerful imprint in our lives and our friendship. Sending you so many hugs xoxoxo
beautifully said. i am at a similar point in the cycle of death and rebirth. there is always more.... hmm... although painful to sit still in such discomfort, i am learning to appreciate this sacred moment as it is. thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for reading and taking a moment to comment. The discomfort is so so soooo painful but it is every bit as sacred as the beauty on the other side. Sending you so much love in your journey. xxxxx
You put into words how I've been feeling about my own situation. I keep wanting to grow faster, but I also fail to appreciate that I am growing at all. I really loved this line: "What if my business is growing slowly and softly because my authentic existence is soft and slow? What if this is actually the perfect pace of growth?"
Wishing you success on your journey! (At the right pace of course.)
Chris, thank you so much! I'm so happy that this resonated with you. It's a strange and uncomfortable place to be - balancing the gratitude of growth without getting lost in the hunger for more of it. I think the key is stopping to look back and see how far we've come, rather than getting focused on the people we see as being ahead of us. I'm so glad you loved that line, I think that's my favorite part of the entire piece. Wishing you all the best! xxx
Krista, your words always MOVE me 💛 and I resonate so deeply, with SO much of your journey. It always astounds me how similar our experiences are. You are not alone, and I LOVE getting to witness your path continuously unfolding! ✨
Sydney! 🤍 this means so much to me. Thank you, thank you, thank you. It never ceases to amaze me how the universe puts people right in our path to remind us just how not alone we really are. I feel the same way about you. Just a kind of connection that's hard to explain, but I'm thankful to have. I'm so excited to see where this next chapter/leap takes you!!! 🤍🤍🤍
I so deeply resonate with this, Krista 🤍
As someone who's had a business for almost 6 years now, on and off...I remember being so disappointed at the one year mark when I hadn't made tons of money like I had been promised by my first business coach (who I invested a TON of money in that I didn't have). I realized I needed to take a step back and allow my business to unfold in its own time, and surrender that I didn't have any control over it. It's been a continual learning, forgetting, and remembering over the 6 years and there have been times I've wanted to give up when I haven't seen the external results, but it's been so fulfilling to create and work with the clients that come to me that I keep coming back.
Now, when I do work with mentors or enroll in programs (which I took a long break from after I realized I was investing from a "what can this person/course get me and how quickly" place), I do so not from a place of lack but from a place of deep excitement, integrity, and relinquishing any cherished outcomes. I know when I hire someone to coach or mentor me, it's for me and not for the results. I trust that I will receive exactly what I need, and what that really is is deep space to just find joy exactly where I am, not chasing external success.
Hang in there, it's a long, slow, but beautiful and fulfilling road! Your writing is gorgeous and I'm cheering you on!
Oh Melina, this was everything I needed to read this morning. THANK YOU. That's the exact realization I had this week, I wasn't looking for a coach or course from a place of integrity/authenticity. I was looking to it for results, regardless of how aligned or unaligned it actually was.
" I trust that I will receive exactly what I need, and what that really is is deep space to just find joy exactly where I am, not chasing external success." I love this so much. Carrying it with me.
Thank you for sharing this piece of your story with me, it was so expansive and seriously just the reminder I needed. I'm so happy this piece resonated with you. 🤍
That’s such a hugely important realization! I have had such beautiful and richer experiences with the coaches / containers I have enrolled in since making that switch (and I am extremely selective about who I hire for those roles).
So glad this resonated with you! Keep going, the world needs your medicine 🤍
Wow Melina thank you for sharing. This is exactly what I needed to hear.
Nikole! I am so so glad this resonated with you as well and that these words reached you! This is your sign that the universe is looking out for you 🤍
Big love!
It's funny how we find pieces of work, pieces of art, at the exact moment we need them. For some (divine) reason, I missed your latest essay, and now I know why. I'm in a puddle of tears. I think I ugly cried for five whole minutes. I resonated with every single word because I'm moving through so much of this right now. AND I got a mention?!?!?!?!?!?!? I love you so deeply, and I'm so grateful that our paths crossed when they did 🤍.
I've said it 100 times today but I LOVE YOU and I AM SO THANKFUL FOR YOU. So touched to know that this found its way to you right when you needed it. Forever in awe of the universes gentle but powerful imprint in our lives and our friendship. Sending you so many hugs xoxoxo
beautifully said. i am at a similar point in the cycle of death and rebirth. there is always more.... hmm... although painful to sit still in such discomfort, i am learning to appreciate this sacred moment as it is. thank you for sharing!
Thank you so much for reading and taking a moment to comment. The discomfort is so so soooo painful but it is every bit as sacred as the beauty on the other side. Sending you so much love in your journey. xxxxx
So beautiful, so perfect.
🤍 thank you sweet angel.
You put into words how I've been feeling about my own situation. I keep wanting to grow faster, but I also fail to appreciate that I am growing at all. I really loved this line: "What if my business is growing slowly and softly because my authentic existence is soft and slow? What if this is actually the perfect pace of growth?"
Wishing you success on your journey! (At the right pace of course.)
Chris, thank you so much! I'm so happy that this resonated with you. It's a strange and uncomfortable place to be - balancing the gratitude of growth without getting lost in the hunger for more of it. I think the key is stopping to look back and see how far we've come, rather than getting focused on the people we see as being ahead of us. I'm so glad you loved that line, I think that's my favorite part of the entire piece. Wishing you all the best! xxx
Thanks Krista!
I look forward every week to your message ! And I definitely can relate to your words today!! Super proud of you ❤️❤️❤️ love you so much !!
Love you!!! So thankful for your endless support. Means the world.❤️❤️
Krista, your words always MOVE me 💛 and I resonate so deeply, with SO much of your journey. It always astounds me how similar our experiences are. You are not alone, and I LOVE getting to witness your path continuously unfolding! ✨
Sydney! 🤍 this means so much to me. Thank you, thank you, thank you. It never ceases to amaze me how the universe puts people right in our path to remind us just how not alone we really are. I feel the same way about you. Just a kind of connection that's hard to explain, but I'm thankful to have. I'm so excited to see where this next chapter/leap takes you!!! 🤍🤍🤍